Don’t make me talk to adults! Public speaking isn’t my thing

Q: I teach in a school in an area where lots of districts have open enrollment choice plans so parents can select any school they want for their children. Our school is really good, but we’re having trouble ramping up our enrollment, and my principal is understandably anxious. She wants teachers to “get out there” by presenting at conferences. She’s been pushing us for a while, telling us it will round out our skill set and help us grow professionally. She’s offered public speaking training to anyone who’s resistant. It’s clear she’ll disapprove if we refuse. I love teaching kids, and I work in an elementary school for a reason. I’m not interested in educating adults. I dread back-to-school nights because parents drain my energy. To be honest, talking to grown people scares me. Can I get out of this without hurting my career?

A: I feel your dread, but I’m going to play devil’s advocate. Your principal may be using teachers to boost enrollment, but I give her credit for being transparent. She’s also clear that she sees these conferences as opportunities for staff to share their interests and grow professionally. Good leaders want their teachers to stretch and will support them as they acquire new skills. Your principal recognizes that this isn’t an easy sell and is providing extra training. Her approach may be a little heavy-handed, but I think it’s worth questioning your knee-jerk reaction.

Let’s start by looking at different possible scenarios. In option one, you bow out and have an honest conversation with your principal about your reluctance. Ideally, she won’t hold it against you. It’s possible, however, that she’ll view you as risk-averse, stubborn, or short-sighted. You’ll also reinforce your belief that you’re incapable. Mastering a task is the best way to still negative self-talk.